You have everything you need to make your wildest dreams come true. All you need to do is stay still, exactly where you are, and let yourself be.

Being is a part of life. You have many parts of yourself that are starved for your attention, dormant, unable to help. These avoided parts of us lead to patterns in our life that can be described as “stuck”.

Patterns, often seen as road blocks or self-sabotage, are actually road signs pointing the way out!

Sometimes our patterns are clear as day and other times they’re found in shades of gray.

If you know your patterns and want out of the loop, read on!

If you’re feeling stuck or unfulfilled, you have patterns.

Here’s how to spot them!

Slow down, reduce your distractions in the form of “things to do” or “places to be”. Sit quietly, no TV, no phone, no going… and reflect on past or present challenges. Notice that they can feel very similar the closer we look. Note the similarities.

The experiences that make up a pattern are often seemingly unrelated, but similarities will begin to look the same when layers of who, what, and when are peeled back to expose the raw emotional contents.

Like dust bunnies, your emotional contents are like creatures made up of your dog’s winter’s coat, nail clippings, and dirt that ran for cover in the cave that is your night stand.

No matter which large block you move, you find the same dust bunnies. Nobody wants to look at that shit. It’s gross and dirty and hairy.

So…

We’re taught to eat and drink and distract ourselves from the emotions. Stuff the “bad” emotions into the corner and “be happy”. Hakunamatata.

When we avoid sadness, anger, frustration, we miss the opportunity to learn from the feeling and grow closer to ourselves. We miss the ultimate connection.

What’s more is we beat ourselves up, and like our parents, we tell ourselves to “get over it”, “toughen up”, or “smile”

By avoiding “negative” feelings, we say no thank you to the chance to ride an upward spiral of kindness; empathy for that part of you that isn’t feeling good. You deserve more than a dark corner! But life moves fast and people often respond without thinking.

This auto-responder is generally based on childhood training (programming). Ultimately, you react in the same way as before (pattern). If that reaction includes stuffing feelings down, it leads to a downward spiral -fast or slow- away from our highest intentions; to love, appreciate, grow.

In masculine language; bigger, faster, stronger.

“They’re on the downward spiral” is common language. It’s been happening for eons. Today, you have a choice to get on the upward spiral and let it take you somewhere you’ve never been before.

Getting to know your feelings can be uncomfortable and messy and the upward spiral can be just as dark.

Curiosity is your light. Like a black hole, the spiral is unpredictable and quantum! To inquire or resist?

Personally, the feeling of judgement comes up frequently during this practice, but even judgement has its place on the spectrum of emotion! The key is to turn our light of curiosity toward the judgement to get to know what it has to say. Hold space.

When you experience a feeling such as fear or disgust, instead of telling it to go away, you can consciously say to the feeling, “It’s ok that you’re here. Would you like a glass of water? Breath of air? What do you need to say?”

By entering dialogue with the feeling that is a part of us, we enter alignment with ourselves. Alignment happens easily when we practice kindness, especially toward ourselves.

This kindness does not mean you need to ACT on the feeling or do what it says! I was told, “It’s ok for fear to ride in the car, but fear must sit in the backseat and they cannot change the radio station or roll the window down without your permission”.

Low energy feelings can be meaningful and simultaneously have terrible ideas. I encourage you to listen to what the feeling says, like a watcher of a golf game. The feeling doesn’t need you to do anything, it just needs a golf clap. Let it be.

Note: Once you let one feeling speak, there will be a line out the door. They’re all waiting to talk to you. After you let fear speak, anger could be right behind, then frustration, irritation, apathy, etc.

It’s easy to see that the upward spiral can become arduous, but you will not give up. You know that befriending your emotions is the only way to break this pattern and you’re tired of the old outcome! You want to hear what it is these feelings are trying to say. And by listening in stillness, you’re already breaking the pattern. You are on your way to an outcome that is different than the one you know so well! Your life can continue!

There are tools to help you complete the job of pausing, asking, listening, and processing too. One tool is kept in your shirt pocket.

Breath.

Even in panic, you have the ability to take a breath. And another breath… And another, and another, because you want a different outcome. You want to break your pattern of circumstances that have been stuck on repeat the last decade (or two!).

Another readily available tool is simply pen and paper (free-write what the feeling is saying)! The voice inside your head contains nuggets of wisdom like needles in a haystack. It’s trying to tell you something important! You are getting closer to the prize! Giving your feelings a place is giving yourself a place to belong.

Other benefits are reduced worry, heightened awareness, and alignment which leads to magnetism and magic.

Many of you are already doing this! Everybody’s process looks different and not everyone needs to write to hold space for their feelings. Like a math equation, some people can do it in their head!

However you do it, to learn from your feelings is to ride the upward spiral toward enlightenment and bliss; heaven on earth.

If you believed that this simple and challenging process would lead to your wildest dreams coming true, would you try?